Posted by Devenia Besant on 25 Feb 2018

I’m currently running a Mother’s Day competition to win an “I love you to the moon and back” necklace.  The competition really got me thinking even though I’m a mum of 3 and had my first nearly 13 years ago I haven’t really given it much thought before but what is it us mums really want for Mothers Day? Is it afternoon tea at the Ritz? Is it lunch out? Is it expensive perfume? Flowers maybe?

Anyway having given it more thought I decided I’m just happy with a card from the kids, a nice dinner cooked for me and some peace and quiet! I also decided to put this question to my Facebook mummy friends to see what they “really” want for Mother’s Day…dads/partners (and children!) get a pen, a piece of paper – take note and action!!!!! 🙂

The Truth Directly from Mums – What Mums Really Want for Mothers Day:

In no particular order here’s what they said….

“My friends and I spoke about this over coffee and we said we’d like to be booked into a hotel, ALONE, to sleep. Haha!”
– Kalli

 “I’d really like the toilet flushed please! 
– Emily

“Something handmade by the children or something bought locally with their input”
– Jennai

“To my beautiful and darling teenage daughter and son. “I don’t work for Uber” give me a break for a day, Amen 
– Shqiponja

“I would love a day of rest with a facial, massage and the longest nap. Whilst I’m doing this hubby and child could scrub the house from top to bottom… to my standard not to men’s standard”
– Emma

“A voucher giving me 3 hrs to myself, child free in an empty house where I don’t have to tend to any household tasks!! And for this to actually happen, not just be a promise, so time and date is set on the voucher and daddy has organised an activity for him and the children!! “
Harsh aren’t i?!! 
– Carly

“To not spend it with the mother in law”
– Anonymous

“To have a lunch or dinner made for me that involves buying the ingredients, cooking the food and clearing up afterwards without me having to do any of it! “
– Nicola

“A day off from the stress of being a mum of 3….. to not stand on a footie pitch freezing cold on the Sunday morning(as much as I love it a week off be nice) to get ready without being interrupted 20x….. To go for dinner and enjoy my meal without a spilt drink, an argument, hearing the words I don’t like it…’s not to much to ask is it!!! 
– Carla

“We don’t get a lot of time, just the 3 of us. I’d love breakfast in bed with all of us and lunch at our favourite place for a Sunday roast. Then to put my feet up with a glass of wine and my favourite magazine.”
– Julia

“To be able to have a night in my bed without either of you in it.. then wake up at 9am refreshed.”
– Emma

“Not having to do any daily chores!!”
– Kylie

“Sleep, sleep , sleep – sleep ….. just…. want……sleep!”
– Samantha

” A facial, massage, pedicure, a voucher for a cleaner who also irons and can occasionally do the school run.”
– Diane

“Someone to do everything I have to do without being asked!”
– Sara

“A day to myself with not one person asking me a question.  Or even a lie in?”
– Stacey

“I would love to have a shower or bath one morning without suddenly seeing a face peering through the shower door at me, or having to get out to wipe a bum.”

“I’d love someone else to load and unload the dishwasher, and run the hoover round! Simple things!!”
– Victoria

“A clean and tidy house!”
– Mechelle

“A spa day with some magazines listening to my favourite music.”
– Kelly

“A whole day to myself, breakfast cooked, lunch out, pampered and then dinner out too.”
– Fay

“To change my name to Dad for the day as I’m sure my kiddies use it 1 or 2 times a day otherwise it’s (at top of their voices) “MUM!” x a billion times a day!”
– Kerry

“I’d like a day all to myself. Not working, not being Mum. Just me, the sofa, remote control and loads of rubbish food.

Never going to happen”
– Claire

“Someone else to let the dog out at 6am & bring me tea in bed.”
– Kerry-Anne

“Just to have my 3 together in the same place at the same time (2 are at uni), laughing and chatting together… without phones or moaning about no wi-fi!”
– Paula

Role reversal. .. me be the child, be told what to do and when, then ignore the instructions, be cooked for and dinner handed to me. Plate taken away and everything tidied away. Not forgetting the early night!
– Cheryl

As you can imagine this Facebook thread kept on going and going but there is a common theme here, top of the list of what us mums really want is “time” quality time,  time alone and time with the family.  Also proving popular is chores to be done by others for the whole day with no questions asked and zero bickering.

So Dads/Partners if you find yourself wandering aimlessly around the shops in the lead up to Mothers Day come back to this list as you can’t find “time” in House of Fraser!  However I’m sure a night at a luxury spa hotel won’t be rejected as long as it doesn’t include you or the kids ha ha so perhaps check out!

I know you will want to thank me for this list so I’ll say it now “your welcome”!!! 🙂 and I’m under no illusion that producing this list is going to bite me on the bum with a nasty sting when Fathers Day approaches but at least we all know where we stand….

If you would like a chance to win the “I love you to the moon and back necklace” all you have to do is sign up to the Epsom and Ewell Families mailing list below competition ends on the 6th March…good luck!

Dee xx


Devenia Besant
Devenia (Dee) Besant is the founder of Epsom and Ewell Families. Runs a busy household as a mummy of 3 and a wife and some would say crazily committed to helping small businesses and the local community.

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