Posted by Devenia Besant on 15 Feb 2021

It’s been a year since the passing of Caroline Flack, I must have subconsciously known it was coming up as she popped into my thoughts last night! I don’t know what it was about Caroline and I’m not really one to “follow” celebrities but I just really liked her, maybe it’s because she was of a similar age, always seemed to be full of life and laughter and even as a public figure she wasn’t afraid to show her vulnerable side.   She made mistakes, she was very relatable for many, I personally always loved her for her fashion style too, but on a more serious note we will never know what eventually pushed Caroline to take her own life.  I’m pretty sure being hounded by the press and on-line trolls in the months beforehand would have contributed to her feeling so low, and it is a massive reminder that the actions of others can sadly play a huge part in someones mental health.

It has never made sense to me just how cruel people can be on-line to people that they do not know,  and will never meet.  Do trolls feel better about themselves after being so nasty? I doubt it.  Anyway the amount of pressure Caroline was feeling must have been immense and this is why it’s important to be KIND always (and to keep spreading that message).  We really do not know what someone is battling with, even if they seem on the outside to have it completely together.

In the world we find ourselves currently living in let’s make sure we check on each other (phone calls, zooms, messages), I am sure this is standard for most 🙂 .  It’s also important that if you are not feeling great you are open and honest about it, far too many times when asked if “we are okay?” we go to that default answer “yes I’m fine”.  Let’s start being more honest and when we aren’t feeling great give those that love us the chance to lift us up or just listen.  As the saying goes “it’s ok not to be ok”.

As Kat mentioned in one of her latest blogs one in four people experience poor mental health at some point in their lives.  Signs of poor mental health can be:

– Long lasting sadness and or irritability.
– Excessive fear, anxiety or worry.
– Social withdrawal.
– Dramatic change in eating or sleeping habits.
– Experience of excessively high or low mood changes.

If you are concerned about your mental health and are experiencing any of the above, visit your GP or healthcare professional as soon as possible.

Useful numbers:
Samaritans: 116 123
Mind: 0300 123 3393
SaneLine: 0300 304 7000
Calm: 0800 585858

Useful websites:

Take care of you and remember IN A WORLD WHERE YOU CAN BE ANYTHING BE KIND (and that’s being kind to yourself too).

Dee xx

Devenia Besant
Devenia (Dee) Besant is the founder of Epsom and Ewell Families. Runs a busy household as a mummy of 3 and a wife and some would say crazily committed to helping small businesses and the local community.

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